Forgive me if I’ve made this suggestion to you before, Susan. I know that I have in another part of this forum.
A good book for you to read, at least the first part, is called The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey.
At the beginning, he talks about the Circles of Influence and Concern.
Most people live in the latter.
They look at all their limitations, and then ask what they can do within them. Over time, they find that they can do less and less.
The relative few who live in the former – The Circle of Influence – focus on all the things that they can do. Over time, they find that they can do more and more.
That’s a summary, but it would be worth it for you to read his discussion.
You can probably get the book through Inter Library Loan from your local library. It will certainly be in a copyright library if they can’t get it.
Any problems, just let me know and I’ll track it down for you.